Average time from dating to marriage
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As I write this, I’m imagining that some readers may be thinking, “Three years? ” To this, I would say, a lengthy courtship would be wise any time three years (or more) have passed but you still know relatively little about each other.
People don't get married when they're teenagers anymore for a reason, the same reason why we explore our partners on an emotional AND physical level before we commit to spending the rest of our lives beside them.Where is your statistical proof that those people are happy?What you consider cultural bias, I consider the evolution of humanity.On the flip side, it’s quite heady stuff to be told that you are the person a soldier holds in his or her heart amidst the chaos of war.In this case, a much longer courtship may be necessary if you want to make a good decision.To this question, I respond that most of the things that are worth achieving in life require us to delay gratification and to prioritize restraint over indulgence in more primitive drives.
Recall Walter Mischel's marshmallow study which showed the value of the ability to delay gratification.* Mischel offered a group of four year-old children one large, puffy marshmallow but told them all that if they would wait for him to run an errand, they could have not one, but two, lovely marshmallows.
Since sex is what sets marriage apart from all other relationships, normally, I would hope you counsel couples not to wait.
Or at least advise them that they are flying blind and putting their couple-dom at serious risk. A lot of couples don't know whether they are bonded together because of sex or because of actual long-term compatibility.
I wonder if this explains why the Spanish word esposas means both “wives” and “handcuffs”?
But, of course, pointing out that not rushing into a pre-mature commitment is very difficult when we’re in love doesn’t really address the question at hand—that is, how long is it until the cocaine-rush of initial infatuation wears off and you can make a good decision?
They don't know whether they are moving forward because of inertia--particularly because of living together--or because being together forever actually makes sense.