Dating man 20 years older than you
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And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
He just didn’t get that and wanted to be around every second.
Keeping in mind what I’ve learned from my own relationship and anecdotes I’ve picked up from women in similar situations, I’ve outlined the perks and challenges of dating an older man. I get asked a lot of questions about my boyfriend’s finances (why else would I date someone much older, right? It’s not actually anybody’s business, but I can tell you that I’ve never dated anyone because of money.
In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.
Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.
After all, going up to a total stranger in a bar and making an impression isn’t easy, and it takes a certain amount of confidence, which often comes with age.
Persistence also takes confidence—my boyfriend extended three invitations before I finally agreed to get coffee with him.
I don’t necessarily think that he wanted to hang exclusively with me all the time, but I think he felt insecure that I’d meet other guys when I went out with friends.
One thing I’m incredibly grateful for is not having to deal with jealousy in my current relationship.
I’m often asked how we met—and not in a giddy kind of way (it’s more like concern).
People are shocked when I respond “mutual friends.” How could a girl in her early 20s be friends with people in their late 30s?
As Aaliyah once said, “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.” Older men know this. I won’t lie: It can be annoying at times dating someone who has “been there/done that,” but it can also be helpful when your partner can use his experiences to guide you.